by Carl Nelson
Since the problems presented by Hamas, Democrats, WHO, CDC, RINOs, the CCP, the EU, Judicial Lawfare, and finally (but most importantly) Women… will probably be around a while – it seems useful that we should have a few means of clearing our minds, if, for no other purpose but to get a good night’s sleep. I have something to offer here.
I speak as someone of 75 years of age. At this point in life, solutions which can be decades in arriving – have arrived! They are pulling up to the loading dock now. And I think it would behoove me to share a bit of what I have found – and am uncrating.
First, let me just note, that it took me many years to understand that the fix for a leaking toilet tank valve apparatus was not to be come by. This is because the failure is too small (and disseminated) for the eye to see. As the tank apparatus ages, calcium carbonate crystals will deposit on its structures preventing their smooth operation. You will not be able to see this, and so, will not be able to locate the problem. The fix is to replace the entire assembly. “Out with the old, on with the new!” This will help you to achieve a better night’s sleep.
Now, as to the tide of tyranny overwhelming the entire world with (the concomitant) individuals’ lack of agency! I can only say that the answer (to a good night’s rest) must necessarily come from within.
At 75 years of age, I have found ¾ of a night’s sleep fairly easy to come by, even when interrupted by bathroom breaks. However, it is that last 2 hours of restorative sleep which can be hard achieve. It is at this point in the process where a sleeper’s mind feels enough restored to begin daydreaming rather than REM dreaming. And once begun, the process is hard to turn off.
Sleep authorities often suggest calming your mind for sleep by directed meditation. They suggest visualizing a calm image e.g. being held by a loved one, a lovely beach with lapping waves, or by a crackling fire watching the snow outside fall. Once your mind has calmed, your need for more sleep will reassert itself. I’ve found this latter to be true, but that the former images haven’t been effective.
I think this is because those pleasant calming images have very much in common with the daydreams and concerns which are keeping me awake in the first place. They are likewise aspirational fantasies- and hard to ground.
Be that as it may, what I have found that DOES seem to work is to actively meditate on a very boring image. For myself I visualize a portion of my dog walking route. There is a long stretch of street, an intersection, and then more street, with nothing remarkable to view. And to further focus, I visually follow the sidewalk strip and curbstone as we walk along. This can take some effort, but the pay-off is that after sweating it out for a bit – I find myself later waking up from a real dream, and having accrued my final needed topping of sleep.
Just recently I have discovered an accelerant for the whole process! While visualizing the parking strip grass, I remember how irregular (and bothersome) the grass there is to walk across, when I am forced onto it by a car passing in the street. This immediately places me firmly within the moment and sleep comes soon thereafter.
This is something I had previously realized in a poem – but hadn’t realized, myself, until just the other night:
…you want to live in the moment?
Just try a home repair.
The moment will grasp you by the balls.
The son of a bitch won’t give up.
It’s like trying to pass a stone.
And so I recommend it.
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6 Responses
Carl, as you are a full Nelson, I’m concerned about the demons you’re wrestling with.
As you should! 🙂 (Actually, I should have a piece coming out next month in the New English Review about just that… kicking SSRIs.)
If you’ve time and interest please include next month your thoughts re the depressed adult training to be a hospital children’s ward clown.
Is the ability to elicit a smile, giggle, wonder, enthusiasm in a damaged child worth the effort away from depression?
Blessings.
I’m just about the same vintage as Carl…. 77 years old next month .
There’s not been too many occasions throughout my life where I haven’t been able to get to sleep ( my friend says I can fall asleep on a washing line😊)
I never let world affairs bother me to the extent where they’re roiling in my head before I nod off and the very few nights I have tossed and turned have been caused by family stresses, lousy bosses or money problems.
I don’t have any money problems these days and any asshole bosses are in the distant rear view mirror .
Of course there’s still itty-bitty family stresses from time to time but at my age I can always see pretty much what’s on the other side of them.
I never worry about news that tells me what’s going to happen 10 years from now because, frankly, I don’t care , there’s nothing I can do about it.
I have had this amazing ability to conjure up endless clouds of colors in my mind before I fall away .. the best way I can describe it is like a video from the Hubble telescope . I can create any color I want in a kaleidoscope fashion, ( sometimes it takes a bit of effort but the effort pays off in that I fall asleep trying)
Every day I go for a nap from 2pm to 4.30 pm and at 2.05 pm I am fast asleep, even with the full sun shining in my face. I can’t fall asleep in a chair so I go to bed.
At night I go to bed about 11-11.30 pm, my darling wife is a night owl who suffers from insomnia so she can’t turn in until she’s absolutely ready (but I tell her not to worry because she too is retired, and she can go to bed any time she wants during the day.)
Before I fall asleep at night I read for about 1/2 an hour … currently I’m re-reading the adventures of Tom Sawyer. Five minutes after I close the book I am zonked out, nothing will wake me.
I know that if I eat certain foods before I turn in, then I have the most vivid dreams, usually of past events in my life, places I’ve worked or countries I’ve been to (and I’ve been to a lot!)
Dreams are especially intricate and mysterious after I have eaten cheese.
Most of my dreams are very very happy but occasionally I’ll have a nightmare where someone is chasing me and I can trace the cause back to something unusual I ate.
I’m up at 8am each morning and I’m out to the gym by 9 so I guess it all adds up to a stress free life.
I’m off to the gym as we speak.😊
A book of your dreams according to cheese injested would be interesting, I think.
I do try to write them down the moment I wake up but I’m not very successful with the details.
The most unusual thing about them is that the characters in them have aged from the time I knew them and the conversations I have in the dreams are as real as if they were standing right in front of me.
Got to go now , they’re giving me my medication😂